Relationships

Nope I'm not being emo or anything.. Its just a thought that crosses my mind and I set to pondering about it.

and no I'm not specifically talking about You, yes you with that amazing grin on your face.. =)

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

To me, Relationships will inevitably cross paths with another R word, Responsibility. Having been in 2 past relationships, I've realised that while Love is the seed and can be the driving force of a relationship, it is usually not enough to sustain it. Some may say, "Here's where effort comes in". Yes, I do agree that effort does count for a huge chunk in making a relationship work, but it falls short of a purpose if Responsibility doesnt come into play.

Responsibility (in a relationship) is to understand what you have to do, what you mean to the other person and putting in the effort to stick to it, no? Its kinda like acting out a role in a play/musical for example. You know your position and how it affects the other characters, and you drive effort into getting it right just so that the other characters can perform their role seamlessly as well.

So what's our responsibility as a guy? (Keep an open mind as I'm just sharing my point of view)

Firstly, I hope this doesnt sound chauvinistic but guys werent made to carry his lady's bag. He is made to carry her through in times of sickness and trouble, sharing the burden of emotions with her, helping her get rid of the deadweight from any pain and hurt in her life. This sounds like a role of a best friend, but hey, if you cant be best friends in a relationship, then what are you? In the song of Jason Mraz, he wrote "Lucky I'm in love with my best friend.", isnt that just perfect? And if you're not a best friend in her eyes, start working towards being one!

I believe our second responsibility is to be patient. Not the ones that goes into wards cos their wife hits them, haha.. (Ok that was lame).. Trust me, for most guys out there with their raging hormones and stuff, this is actually really hard to achieve.. I mean, even if a person is patient, there's got to be a eventual limit. My point here isnt on acquiring an everlasting patience, its on knowing when you have reached your limit, and how you go about sharing with your partner. (This is based on personal experience as I once stubbornly refused to admit reaching my patience limit and it has cost me a relationship in the past) Learning to ration out your patience is very important ( I dont claim to be able to do it but i'm learning!).

R.E.S.P.E.C.T., find out what it means to me! Haha, this one I got from my dear friend Ning (Look! I credited you!).. I have to totally agree with this.. Respect comes in many forms, or rather, you can respect a person for many things/reasons.. In context, however, respect comes in the form of treating each other as equals, that both of you are human beings after all with strengths and weaknesses.. Which means (putting it into a more blatant manner), guys, dont always assume that your girl cant do everything by herself, or to be constantly cautious whenever you're around your girl cos you feel that she might not be able to take any joke you throw at her (I got this insight from a certain P&J I know)..

Commitment (from my best friend Ian), with a pinch of salt (from me, haha).. I'll be damn honest and say that most guys cant control their eyes, even i'm guilty of that sometimes, but I know my heart stays in a single place, and that I'll always be committed to that one special person in my life.. So what i'm trying to say here is to be open about it, even talk it out.. Cos its only natural for guys to look at girls or the other way round, dont judge, simply trust each other and you'll find yourself less miserable.. Well, maybe unless its down right oogling then I suppose the girl would have the right to smack the daylights outta ya.. hehz..

For You with that amazing smile, I want to promise you these things and more and hope that all things will work out in the end for us.. =)

Somehow, this whole post sounds like a self-help book.. lolx.. didnt intend for it to be this way, but if somehow it helps anyone out there, do drop me a text at the chatbox if it works out for you..



P.S Sometimes I just wanna follow the lyrics of Leona Lewis's Bleeding Love:

"But I don't care what they say
I'm in love with you
They try to pull me away
But they don't know the truth"


But thats just irresponsible.. ah well..